Sexuality and Partnership 9 and End of series

"When people grew old sexuality will stay part of their life. Neither will be women less attractive, nor will be men less popular. People get wrinkles and little ailments, but if they do not look upon their age as something evil, then the age allows them a new perspective on sexuality. "

"Women can have fun without needing to be afraid to become pregnant. Men can have fun without confusing the bed of love with a sports competition."

"When I see the age, Ray, then I see that the fibres of the people are energetic as ever. The energy body does not age, but older people feel spiritually weak, because their body is weaker, feels differently. And what is age teaching the people? To enjoy the moment, not all can be done at once and to approach things with caution. What a beautiful thing, if we combine such virtues with the best pastime in the world. "

"Yes", I nod. "I knew old people who maintained an intense love- life. Even the enamouredness should feel as if you were young."

She nods. "Yes, age is not an enemy. The age is similar to the death a friend, because it teaches us to feel and use the energy body. The older body feels more, feels more than the young body. My advices to you, if you once will be old:

1st Enjoy every moment and listen to your inner voice. The older you get, the more it has to tell you. Older inner voices are wise and talkative.

2nd If you meet an older person, close your eyes and visualize him only for a brief moment as a flash, or a light ball. The spiritual body of elderly people tells the truth about the people you meet. What a man loses in youth, he wins on the energy level. Remember to look at you the same way before your inner eyes.

3rd Regarding love, be unreasonable to follow your heart however old you might be like. There is no age in which no heart could be broken, not a year, this could not be consecrated to love.

4th When you get older, let your body speak. Let him go as he wants, let him stand like he wants. Don't direct yourself according to ways, or seats. Old people are magic and if you mind the magic, then your body flies away with you .. "

She smiles ....

Sexuality and Partnership 8

"Reagarding sex, there is a significant point where you can orientate yourself. The key point is simply the ability to let your partner orgasm and wish him or her to be successfull in that. It is not understood that the partners feel pleasure. Many religions tried to bring the sexuality of the people under control and tried to see evil in the sexual desire. In my view, this position may be harmful for the energy flow of the body, regarding pure energy balance. "

"Why?"

"This is quickly explained. The sexual energy is generated in humans in another place as the love. The flow of love runs down in the middle of the body from the solar plexus and rises at the back again. The flow turns a head high over the head back and falls like a small waterfall in the solar plexus. When the love affect the sexual energy", she puts the hand between her legs, "has the energy already has made some way through the body. If sexuality is suspended or banned, then a part of love is suspended or banned too. The human being is weakened, more vulnerable from outside influences. That is why in some religions or sects the people are put under the command of human laws. "

"From this reasoning, you can not infer that people should constantly have sex with each other, so that the flow of energy is not disturbed. Rather, it is so that women have a different rhythm in the sexual energy than men. Whether husband and wife sexually unite is a free choice of both and regardless of the constant flow of love. The love revolves throughout the body. The sexual energy does not. The sexual energy remains within the limits of the physical body and it creates a tension in the sexual organs of the people. If the power is suppressed, it may lead in the sex organs to somatic results. While the love covers the body, including his sexual organs, the sexual feeling covers the function of sex organs and thus almost everything is said. "

"If I allow and wish my partner to orgasm, then love, dreams and imagination combine with each other. If two people make love, it is important that they respect the limits of love, and do nothing, in which one of the partners could no longer love himself. While we give our partners the feeling, you will be loved, even with your sexuality, we will do nothing that the partner would not do out of love. Because if we humans do something that we do not love, then we are not able to love ourselves. The river of love stops, we have moved the partner to a limit of love. "

"Men and women have a different rhythm, often the man is the pressing part. May he push his partner because of his physical state to do something although she does not like it? From a spiritual perspective, he may not. He should occupy his sexual energies with his virtual childs (mentioned in posts before). Until the woman is in the mood he should enjoy his own his body - which is difficult for people whose religion says that self-satisfaction is a sin. See Onan from the Bible. "

"When the pressing part belongs to a religion that prohibits masturbation, sometimes there will be claims against the partners. Anyone who does so should realize that he moves his partner at the border of love and if he pushes this repeatedly, the relation may break. "

"Instead, we can wait for the right opportunity, we can look forward to it like for a good meal, we can imagine the good food. Sexual daydreams in which the partner appear, can provide valuable suggestions about the sexual desires of the partner. Is there a loving and non-violent and relaxed relationship, then the partners will tell and exchange their sexual daydreams. Often what they dream will not be similar to the experience in reality, but the exchange and the process of comparison will lead the partners into a playful sexual world in which pleasure will be constantly changing. "

"As the sea again and again surges to the shore but no wave is similar to another, sexual fantasies in the quiet daydream may calmly move back and forth while approaching the shore, the sexual union. Rolls the wave (daydream) against the land the wave gets bigger and bigger until it flips-over and breaking in white foam. "

"Sexuality is a lifelong process which goes on being middle-aged and aged and there can be said much from a spiritual perspective.

To be continued ...

Sexuality and Partnership 7

She leans back and looks at me. Then she looks up at the ceiling. Whether she remembers?

Slowly her words roll out her mouth like perls on a string.

"Mankind would no longer be if we do not possess the ability to love and raise love in other people. The ability to love, it means to take life as it is. Only then could humanity survive even the toughest events. Because the love will open sources of power, spiritual power centers, which the body can use for better performance-like taking enhancing drugs for more strength efficiency. We will both during our walks along the brim of infinity visit the spirit of the human species and you will see that he carries a promise along him. "

"Humanity will exist as a species, as long as the people love. Whenever the last man on earth is no longer filled with love, then the spirit of the human kind will turn around and will leave without any delay this earth."

"If you learn to love, then you support that the spirit of our kind remains in this generation on Earth. If you learn to awaken love in other human beings, then, the spirit of the human kind will be here as long as these people live."

"If you learn to teach the ability to love to the people in general then perhaps we human beings remain as long as the planetll is alive. And that is regardless of whether there is war or not, whether people hate or not, whether people want or not. "

"The spirit of love is the life of the species, is the spiritual water of the people."


I nod. "The spiritual water, I can well imagine."

"Ray?"

"Yes"

"Say, do you love me?"

I am irritated. We sit here and I like her, but is it love? Is not love a big strong feeling among people who are close friends? I look at her and yes, I feel an intense feeling of love for her.

She smiles.

"I know, that you have an intense feeling of love for me and I will teach you how to make other people feel the same about you if you want it. Feel me."

I feel a flow, a river, like water bubbling in her.

"Imagine you would consist only of this lively bubbling water."

Now I realize a source of this liquid in my solar plexus.

"Let this liquid flow down in the middle of your body and rise again atyour back rise until it is over your head, then you can let it flow down on you."

I perform the exercise and feel very comfortable with that. I feel loved.

"So Ray, and now imagine that in other people ther is the same flow, search him to see him."

I see the flow in many people. But time and again a blackness is spreading in the upper part of the spiritual body which suppresses the flow of love.

"What is the cause why people has difficulties to let their love flow?", I ask.

She remains silent. Only after a while it responds. "There are the enemies of love, greed, restlessness, power and defiance. Each of these feelings can stop the flow of love. But everyone who has the flow of love in himself can affect others and let their love flow again. Touch the solar plexus of these people. "

In my imagination I gently touch hadly notecable the emotional point, and indeed, the flow begins again, which was stopped.

"Whenever you meet someone, just touch him and bring his love in motion. It costs you virtually no energy, but your relationship will be the best and now the real issue. Sex."

To be continued ....

Sexuality and Partnership VI

"The third pillar of a spiritual relationship is the silence. They share jointly and respect the silence. The silence may be the private circle, the rest after a creative period. The silence is the recreation in the partnership. It is not the silence which means that I have nothing to Say ... It is meant the peace and the connection to infinity and eternity that we mortal beings carry around with us in form of an umbilical cord. In a partnership, we are aware of the silence, the meaning of silence and that it becomes quiet. "

"In some relationships the partner will not bear the silence. The free floating in space and time is understodd as an attack on the life of the relationship. Zealous activity, compulsive empty ritual may be the result. The silence comes, the silence passes by and the relationship remains . Who respects these fundamental pillars of a relationship will better understand what happens in 'forced marriages' and voluntary marriages. "

"In the west, the current ideal is that the people of free will form a relationship with each other and I am very close to this ideal. But when the relationship begins, do the partners get to know each other without an image of each other, do they want to have children together, do they respect the silence? "

"Could a couple, brought together by the parents, achieve similar conditions? Can the two, without a picture of the other get to know each other, can they have children. Do they respect the silence? There is an opportunity to find a way from the dictatorial situation into a loving relationship, when both of them wants to find the way to love. "

"Imagine you were a member of a small group of thirteen people. Yo do not know more people and you will perhaps meet no more people for years. You need the other twelve for survival. Hatred is a luxury that would turn your life with the twelve into a hell. Love is the ability to live with the twelve in a paradise. "

"Just say to yourself, He twelve, wherever you are and whenever you hear me, you need me and I need you. One way of love brings us together at the door of happiness, hatred could be our fall."

"Thus would perhaps humanity failed on hatred faile in the early hours, if there were not the capacity in each of us to show the other the way love."

"Capability? Each? How?" I asked astonished.

To be continued...

Sexuality and Partnership V

"The second cornerstone of a spiritual relationship is the common work. He and she have children together. That can be real, cuddly, sweet, annoying children, but it could be virtual childs too, such as writing, art, church, the association .... and what else. A partnership has always a common child around which the partners circle. Some relations would break if the children leave home, or if the partner don't want any longer to have a child together. "

"That means, in a spiritual partnership he and she meets each others as in a public community with respect for the abilities of others, with an exchange about the child, with a joint interest to let the child grow best. If we see older people who do not have children, then we should all pleased. By the new children of these elderly we all will benefit, will benefit the community of all people "

Sexuality and Partnership IV

"In women there is a command too, namely, to to ovulate or to give birth to a child .. Why do I choose other words as in the case of men, because to ovulate does not mean to make love every moment. Women own the means men have the urge. Their rhythms are different, but if the rhythms coincide, then it comes to unification. "

"That means first and immediately, that men need to feel the rhythm of a woman need to learn about this and they must respect the feelings of women and take them seriously. At the same time, men learn to slow down their own pace. The rhythm can be well redirected to other occupations as required, redirecting as for example to the creation of works. But slowly - slowly - we now examine the basics. "

"A spiritual well-functioning partnership has three basic pillars upon which the relationship can be based. First. Every conscious being feels the urge to understand. This urge to understand we should learn to direct it to the other partner. Anyone who understands the other partner will not automatically understand himself, but he has learned what we must do to get to know strangers."

"To get to know the unknown, we can not apply fixed ideas, or we see only what we want to see. How would it be in the morning, to forget with whom you have a relationship, to experience the partner all day long as a stranger. How does he affect you as a stranger? Are there things that you do not understand? What would you ask a stranger that you wouldn't ask a familiar person. Forget, who it is with whom you live and get once again aquainted. If you've noticed that you discover completely new qualities ofyour partner, then you can proceed with you as well. Forget who you are. Discover youself as a stranger. Question trifles, why are you doing it and find out why you might like yourself. Thus the partnership changes to a common path of discovery, neverending, because the seer knows of the nature of man that his energy is always changing. You will see that every day you will get up with a new person, that even a single dream will change the delicate color of the soul irreversibly. The spiritual partnership knows no known partners. The well-known partner is the prison of routine, is the detention for those who learn the issue of security and trust in life. Prisons inspire the outbreak, wide halls invite you to linger. "

To be continued ....

Sexuality und Partnership III

But who has ever made the law, the a married couple must be lovers. If they would get along well in everyday life and live harmoniously together, then there must be no love, which connects them. In earlier centuries, people knew of no reason why the love between married people would prevail. Love was assumed to exist outside of marriage. "

"If men and women are stuck in a committed relationship, which is set for the moment and no one questions it, how can they find love, happiness and fulfillment in the hearts and how can both partners find a satisfying sexuality?"

I shook my shoulders. " It ss like squaring the circle, how can there be fulfilment without love?"

She smiles at me. "You want to be sweet, or cute. But it doesn't help here, because the bourgeois ideal of love, this is a long time based feeling. But we don't look here into the future that you may not know, at least not with the means that are currently available to you. We are talking about a time now. And at this moment we can learn to love or hate. It is up to us what we make from this moment and two partners who live in a moment can decide themselves for each other and may discover their current love, which will never have a greater future than now. Visualize just once the purified feeling of love. Without the administrative burden of the morning. What a bureaucracy of accounting. I have smiled at you four times means I love you, but only twice I feel neglected? "

"Basically, the ego of man and the bourgeois love are monsters in the service of the management of property. Everything is justified from the future and should help us in the moment to hide our real and intense feelings. Everyone can love each other and there is nothing bad in a moment to experience love with a human who is perhaps mistaken about his male ego. As long as he can give love this moment, then everything else in the future is pure speculation. "

"Let us have a look at these feelings, the true feelings of the moment. The human species wants tol survive and it has filled the act of reproduction with pleasure. How clever. The moment is stronger than the forecast. When I see men, then I see the command inside them to father children. Every day they want to father a child. This may be the reason why men is said that they were very much controlled by their sexual drive. A woman seeking a sexual partner and only looks at the moment will thus be able to find enough sexual partners. "

"But what about women?"

Sexuality and Partnership II

"Yes, this is the point. Women see with the heart. A small unimpressive man with a golden inner life is in the eyes of a loving heart a wealth of everyday life. And it may be a small man, perhaps, who would want to consort for the sake of his male ego a blonde woman with big breasts and a small rear, to appear as larger, more important before his male friends, who would not reach such a woman despite their physical superiority. "

"In other words, men compete with each other for superiority and influence with the mean of the physical characteristics of women. Male competition games having success criteria such as: who's who how often beaten, who flings the stone higher, who has the biggest biceps? And like that they cover the bodies of women with criteria too. Chest size, waist circumference, hair color, skin texture and more. This is not the heart, through which the men look, it is the eye armed with a set of criteria. "

"And so it may happen that a woman sees a man with the heart and failed to see the truth because they were not looking out for seduction, deception, to increase the attractiveness of the male ego. This will be the basis of numerous struggles and disappointments, which nobody really foresees at the beginning of a relationship. "

"That a women chooses her own man is certainly not uncommon. Everything a woman has to do, is to find out whether her husband has a small ego and how much his competitiveness with other men means to him. If his ego is a little weak, she can help him to feel whole as a man .. "

"There is a difference with women, who find themselves in a relationship because they shall support the ego of a man. If she leaves, he would deprived of his manhood, perhaps he would be badly in the lurch. Or, if they grew older, ther willbe other women matching his ego criteria better. His lack of interest in her, expresses his suffering of his dwindling masculinity will cause her problems. What to do, if they had lived with a man for several years together and may be children have sprung from the relationship. Love is no longer the basis of the relationship, but the preservation of the relationship, the possession of a partner along with many bad compromises becomes the centre of life. "

"Children of single mothers have it harder in life and in this way can the love of children very quickly become a real replacement for the former fake love of the man."

To be continued ...

Sexuality and Partnership I

She looked at me and started a new dialogue. "Sexuality, my dear, is a thorn in the flesh of humanity. We all live our lives and feel this urge in us to seek a partner and give birth to children. Would not we all be infinitely free if we were able to follow this urge without the help of a partner? "

"Do you think it's so bad to have a life partner?" I asked.

She waved my question off. "It's not about bad or not bad, this partner or that partner, because you remember that feelings can be chosen. There is no power on earth which can deny me to chose my feelings as I like to. By the way, what power on earth would miss the feelings of a women? I do not know of any power on this earth that attach to human feelings a special value and the reason is, that people in power have to leave their feelings behind on their way. It is simply a question of power. Who wants to make decisions for others will not appear in the mask of feelings, otherwise his teammates would rank him low, weak. "

"Cold calculating and reckoning and to do possibly things, to say things which please the masses, that is the world of the powerful who work with the acceptance of others."

"Why do I say this? Because it so often is that men make a plan for a woman to win. Do this and her heart blossoms, do that, and she wants you close, do a third and she want to get in bed with you . As long as these ideas, this plans match with the personality of the man, as long he is honest and trustworthy. If a man wins a woman with means that he personally do not stand for, then he is on the path of Seduction, he goes the path of manipulation, the path of power. "

"And if only one lie of seduction leads later to two lies to prevent the detection and two lies for the continuation of the exercise of power, then the young connection will soon become a web of lies. Women discover sooner or later every lie, so why take the risk of detection in the future why not choose a woman as partner who voluntarily stays? "

"How much more will a person feel loved, if he is loved as he is? Would it not better to renounce each display and impressing and see who crosses your way, who will visit and then stay overnight? "

I nodded thoughtfully. "And why do not men behave like this, possibly because they have other women in mind than that which would remain with them?"


To be continued ...

II. Sex is dangerously, from an esoterical point of view?

In this blog occasionally the topic life energy will be treated. I use the experiences of over thirty years of meditation.

The man of action says, “We would have heard of it, if Sex were dangerous. Then it would be well-known for centuries.”

The scholar adds, “but he means, do people loose energy, if they engage in a sexual relationship.”

“Why should that probably be? ”, the man of action asks. “I mean, you could examine people before having sex and afterwards. What would be the expected results?”

The student, “people would have a hole in the aura?”

Both men laugh roaring up. “A hole in the aura, you are joking. Imagine how an aura is built. It consists of energy threads. These threads cannot stop in between then keep on running. Either the threads are there or not. “ The scholar waves denyingly.

“However in some books it is written of holes which will develop in your aura, of energy loss? ”, the student asks unimpressed of the laughter. “Why then is it told and how could you explain to others, that no energy loss takes place?”

The man of action shrugs. “I don't know, I would like to point out another criterion. If people have the feeling to experience too few or too much Sex then they feel uneasy. Their attention is drawn again and again to the topic. It requires time, which can perhaps be better spent than to think about the frequency of sexual intercourse in general or especially related to yourself. In most cases you will find another reason for the behaviour of men. They derive their value as a man of the frequency they encounter women. If I can show off many adventures, then I am a special man - otherwise i maybe a looser. “

“I agree with my worthy previous speaker ", the scholar says, “and I can support his remarks with some theory. If you want to meditate, if you learn to bundle internally your energy, to focus energy on certain intentions, then a picture of yourself in which you fail is not helpful. Le us assume, you would like to become a successful stage designer and train eagerly for this goal. You focus your intention on this goal and support it with meditative pictures. After you direct thus your energy toward the goal, you become sad in your daily life, because of the sad state of your love-affairs. This sad feeling is generated by an low self-image of yourself, an image of you being powerless in life. “

The sun woman says, “and that is the point, when men go bug us women. They come, want attention and love, but I feel uneasiness the entire time. That does not have anything to do with me, I am in a blue funk, which sticks to me and I ask myself, where does it come from? “

The moon woman nods confirmingly. “As a woman, you would not like to take blue funk feeling of the men in exchange for love. What do I gain? He gets the feeling that he is able to defeat the world and i however feel down ? “

Sun woman nods. “No woman would want it.”

The scholar amends, “thus, the conviction is independent, a man must have success with women, of their moods…”

The sun woman protests, “well-being - not moods - well-being!”

The scholar nods, “ arr, independently of the well-being of the women, an mistake. You can be successfully with women fail in your profession and in reverse. Sex is no link, these are two different things. “

The moon woman adds, “we women choose the men, all the same what men might believe themselves. If we choose our partner, then he can imagine, he would have enticed us, but that is fancy. “

“Success comes only, if you don't force things ", the man of the action maintains. “Success consists of recognizing, where things become possible, where opportunities arise and to seize them. That is success. “

The scholar concludes. “Perhaps thus you create yourself possibilities, which you do not seize then, because you are to busy thinking of the stat of your love affairs. “

The man of action continues, “or you run against the wall, because you think - I defeat the world, I just had Sex. To have sex is one thing, to have an opportunity for goals you gave yourself in life, is a completely separate thing. “

The moon woman draws also her conclusion. “Thus men lose much energy if the are occupied with women in order to feel themselves as real men.”

“And then mistaking spending time us women with counting the numbers of sex adventures.”

The moon woman yawns, “that are very simple structures .”
“Those to check out every now and then prove to be difficult", adds the scholar.

“However back to your question”, the man of action says. “How could you recognize, if one is weakened by Sex? Now that is simple. “

“You need a calm moment, undisturbed of everything. Then imagine, you carry a heavy load, not to big so you can carry her for a long time. This picture represents your energy level. “

“Then recall your last intimate moment and continue to carry the load in your conception. If you have to carry more weight after your love encounter, then you lost energy. If the weight hot easier, you won energy. Does the load feel the same nothing changed. Your energy balance is the same. That is so simple. “

The scholar, south woman and the moon woman nods. “We all made this exercise already.”

“And? ”, the student asks.

“You do not lose energy, there is no effect.”

“And why then some people maintain it?”

“ That is the question about the motivation of these people”, says the scholar

to be continued.


What is your opinion. Why do some people state that physical love makes you weak?

I. Is Sex dangerous, from an esoterical point of view ?

Every now and then searching for harmless terms in the search engines result in links on sex sites. At every step and turn the media confront us with Sex and pictures of naked meat, in order to persuade us (above all the men) to buy something.

On the one hand Sex belongs naturally to our daily life, on the other hand are there any overseen dangers? Which dangers are we to find if we have a look at the esoterical sources?

If we have a look at the Tibetan Books of the Dead (books because there are more than one version), we will learn about the travel of the soul after death. The soul of humans pass through several stages of development. In shortened form and without guarantee, because for me such experiences are only known from hearsay, the soul experience from a certain point sexual imaginations. They will become more and more seized by sexual imaginations until they witness how other humans unite affectionately.

It may be an embarassing thought for someone people brought up with an puritanic education, that in intimate moments you are possibly not alone. The bodyless gazes of the souls of the deceased accompany the scene. For some Tibetans it is an convincing conception. If in the due course of action a child is fathered, the soul of the deceased is drawn into the body of the embryo - the circle of rebirth starts again.

From this a European mind can immediately derive a few dangers. To attain the freedom of the soul may depend on the degree of indifference the soul has in its relation to sexual conceptions. Those numbers might be few! Rich people must strive for to live as long as possible, because if they are reborn, then they could be reborn in a poor country. Just imagine an American president could be reborn as a black woman and steps as a child on a landmine, which were distributed so abundantly to defend the free world in the last forty years.

Risk! The price has to be paid for the fact that humans do not help each other to adapt similar living conditions all over the planet.

Purely numerically dangers: Where do the needed amounts of souls come from to satisfy rebirth, as long as the population grows in such great numbers, that is not clear me. Does the danger exist that soulless babies are born? I do not believe. But how does it work the Tibetan books of dead maintains. How do the souls and the available bodies find to one so to say thermodynamic equilibrium. That could be the birth of a new physics discipline in that the terms infinity and space-time and Sex would mathematically be linked with one another.

And if attempts in space are accomplished, with astronauts having sexual intercourse with one another, whose souls will watch in space maybe alien lifeform souls? Does a danger threaten us by Sex in the universe? Import of Alien souls in human bodies?

I am sure, some of you already considered some of these thoughts…?